Why is it that when we need to be kindest to ourselves, we beat ourselves up?
You would think that you would treat yourself with extra compassion and gentleness because you're now sick.
But often, it's the opposite. The monologue in my clients' heads is often: "you should do better", "you can do better" "you're lazy", etc.
Would you use the same tone with your loved one if they had your illness?
If a loved one had the same illness as you, you would probably speak to them with a lot more gentleness than you are speaking to yourself.
So, how can we cultivate more self-compassion?
Be mindful of what you are saying to yourself.
Remember that you are doing the best you can!
You're doing the best you can to understand what's happening to your body.
You're doing the best you can to heal.
You're doing the best you can with the information you have at your fingertips.
Every person's body is so different, and different triggers can affect different people.
You can't control every factor in your life, and you're still discovering what helps and doesn't help you.
With every discovery or experiment, don't forget to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments and successes. Don't simply rush to the next thing!
How will you let go of some criticism and bring more compassion to yourself?
Let me know in the comments below.
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